“When we insist on reciprocity, we define who we are in response to who another is.”
Jett Psaris, PhD and Marlena Lyons, PhD in Undefended Love
Being undefended means being our true selves. Living without defenses lets others see us just as we are, which also lets us truly know who we are. A dropped defense is the definition of true intimacy.
Waiting for the others’ in our lives to behave a certain way, or to only reveal parts of ourselves after others reveal themselves, stops the flow of energy and love between people.
Let yourself be love – simply, purely, truly, undefendedly.